Just Be Yourself Even You Are Nobody

Robbie’s Blog – I guess You already heard the words of wisdom that says, “Be yourself , and just be yourself! “. If you heard these words quickly it seems meaningless. But, if you wanna believe in it, actually the words are powerful enough for self-sustainability that will affect your career. Become yourself makes you have a strong foundation of personality. Indeed, to be yourself is not easy. There are several a number of requirements in the formation of self – among others;

1. Dare To Be Yourself, There’s Nobody Like You

Realize that you are different from other people, both physically and psychic (psychological). Each person has unique traits and characteristics respectively. This implies that on the one hand you have advantages that are not owned by anyone else but on the other hand you also has shortcomings compared to other people. Such awareness will help you feel safe and comfortable in accepting your realcondition . You do not feel concerned with the presence of others. And it This will help develop your confidence.

2. Identify YOURSELF

Physically, you would have to recognize yourself well. for instance, how tall and heavy your body, what color your hair and skin, or how the shape of your eyes. You must also know exactly where and date of birth, where where you live, and what you do. But physical things is not enough to know yourself. You required to recognize things that are non-physical such as how the nature, character, habits, and your personality. actually from all Of these things the quality of yourself are formed.

3. Do not regret SELF

Every person was not free from weaknesses and shortcomings. But do not even regret. No need to bother comparing your weaknesses with strengths of others. After all, besides lack, you also have other potential and excess. And do not let you take ‘shortcuts’ to transform as they are . it would be Better if you dig your strengths to cover your weaknesses.

4. SELF EVALUATION

Evaluate yourself to achieve what you want. This can be done by identification of
many obstacles and things that facilitate your success. This includes various aspects of both physical and non physical. Such as how you talk and dress, how the nature and character. If you feel the lack on one side then you should try to fix it. Ask for help from others who know you to evaluate yourself. So you will get an objective assessment of yourself and this can input for yourself-development>

5. Respect yourself

Think positively about yourself. Even if you have a deficiency, you should not be considered bad and self-loathing. If you always overshadowed your weaknesses, you will be hard to accept and respect yourselves. So you have to start from yourself. If you just can not respect yourselves, how about the others?

6. CONFIDENCE

Self-confidence is a capital base in order accept and respect yourself. You can accept yourself in all atmosphere and under any circumstances. This confidence allows you to yourself. Since you have the personal pride on you. But you can not be satisfied merely by feeling confident. Moreover, you also have to continue to explore and improve the things that can be enhance your Self-confidence.

To sump Up, you must be supported by the attitudes and thoughts realistic. That means you have to realize that you may not be matching the other person, whether physical, intelligence, or success. You can also be successful but not successful as other people . Just Remember Dude, you must accept and appreciate self as a person who has all the weaknesses and strengths. The most important things you can explore your own strengths without cheating strengths of others. Thus, you will become a stronger person and humble.

Self Defence For Woman

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

Through a rapist’s eyes (No Joke) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.

They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a. m.

The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.

The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now you’ve seen their face and could identify them in a line-up, you lose appeal as a target.

If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands – the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.

After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.